How to show up for someone who is dealing with depression
It can be difficult to know how to best support someone in your life who is dealing with depression. We don’t want to overstep, but we also want them to know that we are there. In today’s blog post, we’re going to discuss some of the dos and don’ts of what to do when trying to help someone who is going through a hard time.
First, let’s get into what not to do:
Don’t try to minimize feelings
Even with good intentions, certain phrases or sentiments can exacerbate symptoms of depression rather than help. Rather than saying things like, “well at least you’re not going through XYZ…” – which diminishes how they feel – approach it from a place of understanding and validate their experience. “I’m sorry you’re experiencing this, and I’m here to help you” is a more compassionate way of expressing that you care.
Don’t dismiss their symptoms as laziness
Depression causes symptoms that negatively impact how a person thinks, feels, and copes with daily activities such as eating, sleeping, or working. When someone is experiencing depression, it can often seem as though they are lazy or lack motivation. They may seem tired and disinterested, and it’s important to recognize that these may be symptoms of depression.
Don’t say that “things could be so much worse”
Feeling depressed does not mean that someone is ungrateful for what they have and lacks appreciation, and to imply that would only make someone feel worse. Toxic positivity is not going to help in this situation. It's important to remember that depression is a medical condition that requires treatment, be it with medication, therapy or both.
Don’t tell them that they can heal their depression without medication, even if you were able to
The decision to begin taking medication for mental health is very personal, and it’s between the individual and their doctor. Try not to judge them for seeking help or try to dissuade them from using medication. Remind them that you support whatever approach they feel is best for them.
Here’s what you can do to help . . .
Send a text letting them know you’re thinking about them
Listen to them and be a source of encouragement
Provide support with things that may be overwhelming to them
Encourage them to continue therapy or offer assistance in helping them find a therapist
Send them funny videos or memes to lift their spirits
Invite them to spend quality time with you
The most important thing to do is to support your loved one. If they are ready to seek professional help, support them and encourage them as much as you can.
If you or someone you know is struggling with depression, our compassionate team at Healing Pathways of Houston is here to help at any of our three locations. Reach out today to learn more.
